Archive | November, 2005

Dumping The “When…Then” Excuse

I’ve written before about my recovery from perfectionism. One of the related habits that I’ve been able to at least consciously notice, if not kick outright, is the urge to put something on hold until all the conditions are just right. I wouldn’t quite label the action as procrastination, but the behavior has an easy to recognize verbal structure: "when…then."

You may have heard some else say it; an employee, a boss, a spouse. Perhaps it was part of your own inner dialogue. It might have sounded something like…

"When my boss starts to listen to me, then I’ll be able to do my job."
"When I improve my presentation skills, then I’ll submit a speaking proposal."
"When I get that promotion, then I’ll be able to negotiate for more time to spend with my kids."

This kind of thinking not only plays into the obvious futility of our own desire for perfection and control, but masks an even more insidious problem which is a need to play the helpless victim. It’s an excuse to live a halfway life, one that banks on the illusions of safety and comfort. It’s the supposed promise of something better just around the corner.

Instead of believing that the answer to what we want is out there and in someone else hands, this is an invitation to seek answers from within. It’s an invitation to ask ourselves, "why not now?" It’s an invitation to live a whole life with no regrets.

Is This What Leadership Looks Like?

I was chatting with my CEO yesterday when I noticed a stack of periodicals on his small conference table. On top of the stack was a trade magazine in which the latest issue deals with leadership (or at least I think so even though there seemed to be just one article on the subject). But what caught my attention was the cover picture:Ae_novdec05_1

Is this what leadership looks like? A person intensely gazing at nothing while others look up at the figure eagerly awaiting her decision? Okay…maybe that’s a loaded question. Or is it? Maybe I just like asking questions this morning(?) Here’s another one: if you had to draw a picture of leadership, what might it look like?

If it looks like the picture to the right, you might need to go back to the drawing board. For me, this picture seems to evoke the ideas of:

  • dependency leadership – I’ll take care of you
  • savior leadership – I’ll make everything okay
  • oracle leadership – I’ll answer all of your questions because I know everything that’s going on here

I’m sure we’ve all experienced and maybe even practiced these different types of leadership (I have and it almost led to a nervous breakdown). More than likely, they proved ineffective for your organization’s employees, as well.

If you’re struggling with your own leadership abilities and defining your own leadership style, I highly recommend Peter Block’s book, Stewardship. It’s nothing short of a radical rethinking of how our organizations work. After reading it, you might just swear off leadership as a way of getting things done in your company or association.

Making The Great Professional Leap

One of the questions I occasionally field from readers has to do with breaking into a new career field. Say you hooked a job in insurance after graduating from college and after ten years you discover your heart is really in graphic design. Or you did the corporate climb thinking that the corner office was the end goal, but the past twenty years increasingly led you to the realization that making a difference through youth counseling was your true life’s purpose. Additionally, us folks in associations often wonder if we can make the jump from the small non-profit to corporate for-profit world.

Today’s career reality makes it both easier to make the leap to another profession and harder at the same time. How?

Easier…the demise of lifetime employment has opened up vast opportunities to rethink how we work. We understand that it is perfectly acceptable to seek work challenges with several different organizations throughout our professional lifetime. We are the directors of our own path and we’re not beholden to our companies to take care of us. As a proud Gen-Xer, it seems that my peers exemplify this shift in the work contract.

Now the harder…there are still hangups and beliefs that exist within us and organizations that maintain some of the old ways. We’re still caught in the mindset of the direct trajectory, that the ideal candidate will be the one who has made a logically relevant beeline in their career. Coming in  from a different path may not automatically disqualify, but it probably will get you placed in the hmmm, maybe grouping.

That’s not to say that it’s impossible, just harder. Those of us who are on a divergent trajectory and want to make the jump have to make a much clearer and compelling value proposition explaining what it is that we bring that makes us more attractive than the direct trajectory candidate. Bear in mind that the odds are always against you, but it will be the progressive organizations that will likely get you and what you bring to the table. (sidenote: this is based on my personal experience…if you work for a company that seeks out folks from a divergent trajectory, I’d love to chat with you and profile your company).

Two resources for those of you on the divergent trajectory:
From Louise Fletcher at Blue Sky Resumes…one of the resume models that has been recommended for jobseekers on a divergent trajectory is the functional resume. It’s structured around a candidate’s skills instead of their career chronology. The pros of this approach is that it focuses your experience on relatable skills that match the requirements of the position. Yet, Louise notes that "it’s a favorite tactic for covering up an undesirable background, lack
of experience, major gaps in employment, or any other problem" and immediately gets put to the "no" pile. I can vouch for her advice as it was the same given to me by several professional recruiters I met with when I was conducting my last job search. If you’re using a functional resume, consider a rewrite to a chronological version.

Via Louise, Anthony Meaney at Recruiting.com…the first part of the post is a critique of some job hunting advice, but scroll down for some solid suggestions. Some of the highlights include:

  • Join the professional organizations of your target career (as an association professional, I can’t possibly tout this strategy enough)
  • Create ways to meet the people in hiring positions (you’ll be surprised at who you’ll be able to meet when you join a professional association)
  • Four steps for arranging an informational interview through a cold call

Putting yourself on a divergent trajectory can be a rollercoaster ride. If you’re ready for the thrills, excitement, and fear that go with the process, go for it. Heeding the call of your own soulful work is always worth it.

Warmest Thanksgiving Thoughts

My friend Kevin Holland linked to a brilliant idea and one very appropriate for today: thank your first commenter. I remember my first comment and commenter so very well. It was Curt Rosengren and it was he who made a significant impact on whether this blog would keep going. Up to that point, I had very little traffic and no comments. While I knew I had much to give voice to, I just wasn’t sure if a blog was the right forum.

I still have those his comment but its no longer viewable in TypePad (when I was using Blogger, I managed comments and trackbacks using HaloScan):

Hi Christopher. Love the blog. Any possibility of upping the frequency of posts? This blog has some great potential. Keep up the great work!

So, thanks Curt for that little nudge. It made a world of difference.

And my warmest wishes to all of you. Even if you’re not from the U.S., I hope you know gratitude, solace, and love today.

In The Fog

I guess its a natural part of the creative process to be in the fog every once in a while. Or perhaps its just that I live in a frenetic city, read way too much for my own good, think about things far too deeply, and of course, struggle with some perfectionism tendencies.

Right now, I feel like my head is swimming in ideas. It’s also a bit overloaded with issues from my paying work – though these mainly integrate with my ideas on work and play.

And since I’m blessed to be a part of a great community of readers and fellow bloggers, I have some questions. Feel free to post comments below or trackback a blog post here.

When you read, how do you distill the main points and "aha moments" of different books together? I’m trying to mindmap each book, but I can’t figure out how to integrate the different maps. Maybe one mindmap including all books (though this is going to get unwieldy after several books)?

When you feel overwhelmed by too many thoughts and ideas, how do you deal with getting clarity? Do you relax? Do you have some kind of creative process? Do you do something else entirely?

I’m eagerly anticipating the responses.