Comments on: The Adversarial Workplace Run Amok http://www.baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/ Rethinking Customer Experience & Marketing Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:56:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dick Richards http://www.baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/comment-page-1/#comment-402 Dick Richards Sat, 01 Apr 2006 16:33:01 +0000 http://baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/26/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/#comment-402 "it’s not my association" -- right! And someone else's life is not mine, and so forth. But it really is hard to hold onto that awareness. At least it is for me, and also, it seems, for you. Ego rears its head often, and...out on a limb here...we live in a culture of ego in which the economy depends on our desire to feed ego. When Melanie and I were shopping for wedding rings, a saleswoman tried to convince us that, "you deserve diamonds." The fact was that we didn't want diamonds. “it’s not my association” — right! And someone else’s life is not mine, and so forth. But it really is hard to hold onto that awareness. At least it is for me, and also, it seems, for you. Ego rears its head often, and…out on a limb here…we live in a culture of ego in which the economy depends on our desire to feed ego. When Melanie and I were shopping for wedding rings, a saleswoman tried to convince us that, “you deserve diamonds.” The fact was that we didn’t want diamonds.

]]> By: Chris Bailey http://www.baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/comment-page-1/#comment-401 Chris Bailey Sat, 01 Apr 2006 14:39:16 +0000 http://baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/26/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/#comment-401 You know, Dick, there's something to what you say about how ego trips us up in our own relationships. And it's not only a sense of ego in terms of being right, but knowing what's right for someone else. It's a paternalism taken to the extreme. Here's my learning from the past week...as an association manager, I need to remember that it's not <strong>my</strong> association; the association belongs to the collective membership. Sometimes it's easy to lose sight of that. There are times when I need to help my members create a better association not through my own ideas alone, but by facilitating the very best ideas from its leaders. Each conflict has contributions from all involved parties...maybe I've discovered a bit more of how I've made my contribution. You know, Dick, there’s something to what you say about how ego trips us up in our own relationships. And it’s not only a sense of ego in terms of being right, but knowing what’s right for someone else. It’s a paternalism taken to the extreme.

Here’s my learning from the past week…as an association manager, I need to remember that it’s not my association; the association belongs to the collective membership. Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of that. There are times when I need to help my members create a better association not through my own ideas alone, but by facilitating the very best ideas from its leaders.

Each conflict has contributions from all involved parties…maybe I’ve discovered a bit more of how I’ve made my contribution.

]]> By: Dick Richards http://www.baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/comment-page-1/#comment-400 Dick Richards Fri, 31 Mar 2006 17:32:52 +0000 http://baileyworkplay.com/2006/03/26/the-adversarial-workplace-run-amok/#comment-400 Chris, I haven't been in much conflict lately and don't miss it at all . For the most part (not always), I have managed to give up needing to be right, and don't miss it at all. I am convinced that the root of most conflict is either-or dichotomous thinking and ego that can't let go of the need to be right. Until we get those things straight with ourselves and with one another, workplace conflict (and most other conflict as well) is inevitable. Chris,

I haven’t been in much conflict lately and don’t miss it at all . For the most part (not always), I have managed to give up needing to be right, and don’t miss it at all. I am convinced that the root of most conflict is either-or dichotomous thinking and ego that can’t let go of the need to be right. Until we get those things straight with ourselves and with one another, workplace conflict (and most other conflict as well) is inevitable.

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